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June 28, 2023 Monumental Muse

I see you when you don’t see me and you wonder who you are, who you have become. I see you. When you’re in the depths of despair, not understanding the world around you. I see you. When you’re the little boy, playing with his brother, respecting his mother, being cheeky to his nanny. I see you. When you’re lost in your favourite John Wayne movie, always playing the hero, and capturing the baddies, I see you. When you’re lambing the sheep, calving the cows, and ploughing those fields with furrows so straight. I see you. So many times, happy…

Celebrating A Life A Watery Grave – The Neptune Memorial Reef™

May 8, 2022 Monumental Muse

Located just over 3 miles of the Florida coastal area of Key Biscayne lies the Neptune Memorial Reef™. Its 40 feet deep crystal-clear waters is home to more than 140 different species of marine life in what has become the most bio diverse waters in the state of Florida, with a multitude of marine life which continues to grow exponentially. The 16-acre site, which will ultimately provide a final resting place for over 250,000 people is attracting attention from marine biologists, environmentalists, scuba divers and ocean enthusiasts from across the globe. Designed and built by the well-known sculpture artist…

Coping With Loss The Wind Phone – Where Thoughts and Wishes are Carried on the Wind!

May 2, 2022 Monumental Muse

The Wind Phone – A Place Of Solace and Connection for the Bereaved In a hilltop garden in the small Japanese town of Otsuchi there sits a white glass paned phone booth, overlooking the Pacific Ocean. The booth holds a disconnected rotary telephone, its cables coiled neatly. It never rings with incoming calls and outgoing calls travel only through the lines which are dead. It was sited there in his garden in 2010 by a local resident called Itaru Sasaki when, struggling with his grief over the loss of his cousin, he made the booth a place where he could…

Celebrating A Life Losing Dad

November 9, 2021 Monumental Muse

What do you see, Dad, when you look at me? Do you see the little girl holding your hand? As we walk together across the sand. Tell me, Dad, what do you see? What do you see, Dad, when you look at me? Do you see us playing and frolicking in the sea? Jumping the waves together, just you and me? Tell me, Dad, what do you see? What do you see, Dad, when you look at me? Do you see us milking the cows together? And feeding the calves? Tell me, Dad, is that what you see? What do…

Coping With Loss Secure Mind Solutions from Daddy and The Two Bears

November 7, 2021 Monumental Muse

Introduction A few weeks ago I wrote a post about Daddy and the Two Bears. It detailed an account of Gary Anderson’s brave step of writing a book about his experiences through losing his twin baby daughters. The reaction to the post was phenomenal with people wanting to know how Gary and his wife Michelle are doing now. This prompted me to get back in touch with Gary and ask him for an update. This is their continuing story. In Gary’s Own Words No parent should have to go through losing a child, but as we know, that reality is…

Coping With Loss Unlocking Someone Else’s Prison – A Tale of Two Bears

July 14, 2021 Monumental Muse

I heard the couple outside before I saw them through the glass of the showroom door. Hesitating, not really wanting to come in. Ours is the door that no one wants to open because opening it means you have lost a loved one and need to arrange a memorial. Smiling, I beckoned them to signal it was ok to come in. Reluctantly, each looking to the other for strength and reassurance, they opened the door. They were an older couple. Their unease was palpable. “How can I help you?” I asked. A fleeting glance passed between them and immediately the…

Feature Article Art After Loss

June 26, 2021 Monumental Muse

Creative activities can be immensely helpful after any major changes in our lives, including bereavement. Being creative is mindful, absorbing and allows the unconscious release of emotions and feelings without the need to find the right words. Grief is different for everyone Grief isn’t just associated with death. We can also find ourselves overwhelmed by feelings of loss when important relationships end, if we move somewhere new and after a change in career or financial circumstances. Simply growing older brings change, loss and new adventures. The complex emotions involved can take us by surprise and everyone’s experience is very individual. Some people find it helpful to express how they are feeling…

Feature Article Inscriptions – What More Can Words Say?

June 23, 2021 Monumental Muse

Having been instrumental in the creation of hundreds of memorials the area that most people struggle with is the epitaph or in short, what to write on the inscription. For some families that is simple, and they write something along the lines of “In loving memory of Joan Rivers, beloved wife, mother, grandmother and great grandmother” along with some kind of finishing sentiment such as “Forever in our hearts.” Others however want to say more, to not only pay homage to the person they are celebrating but also to give the reader a little inkling of what that person was…

Feature Article Green Funerals

May 30, 2021 Monumental Muse

Thank you to Sarah Jones from Full Circle Funerals for giving us this informative insight into green funerals. Sarah and her team can be contacted by clicking here. At a time when the environment is influencing so many of our everyday choices, interest in green funerals has never been higher. Whether you are arranging someone’s funeral or leaving wishes for your own, there are plenty of simple ways to make it more environmentally friendly. What is a green funeral? Green funerals are those where the environment has been considered in the choices that have been made. You may want to…

Celebrating A Life From The Inside Looking Out – Memorials and More

March 20, 2021 Monumental Muse

From The Inside Looking Out One of the first things I do as I arrive at my workplace is to make myself a cup of coffee before I start my day. The kitchen window looks out over part of the cemetery. When I first started there, I used to see an old gentleman every week visiting a grave, tenderly changing the flowers and I could see him talking as he knelt, carefully wiping the headstone keeping it in tip-top pristine condition. Over time, I got to know him and learnt some of the stories about his wife and the things…