April 20, 2020 Monumental Muse 2Comment

Venture through the, rather austere looking, huge black Victorian wrought iron gates on Cemetery Road in York, and you may be in for a surprise. You could be forgiven for thinking you had walked straight into the pages of “The Secret Garden” by Frances Eliza Hodgson Burnett. Such is the hidden beauty that lies within, as the road name gives its secret away, York Cemetery. Whilst the Cemetery is administered by York Cemetery Trust with the support of the Friends of York Cemetery when it comes to Cemetery business there is one name that crops up time and again. That…

April 19, 2020 Monumental Muse 25Comment

When we hear the term “key workers” most of us automatically think of those workers from the NHS, Emergency Services, Carers, Shop Keepers, Refuse Collectors, Farmers and Supermarket workers. Seldom do we hear any talk of those involved in funeral services – the people who care for the dead – given a mention. To the contrary, we hear phrases like “The Funeral Directors must be wringing their hands with glee.” Or “At least it must be good business for the Church/Cemetery – they’re never going to be out of work, are they?” Maybe it is because we as a nation…

April 18, 2020 Monumental Muse

This is the second post from guest writer Judith Morris, Proprietor of York Tutors.  York Tutors provide top quality language courses to students for whom English is a second language.  Their groups range in size from 10 to 110 and stay in homes in and around York. From The Pen of Judith: Despite having travelled extensively, York, at least to me, is still one of the most beautiful places in the world. We have everything here – a long, deep history which explains our plethora of amazing museums, fabulous and quirky shops, gorgeous walks and green areas plus some of…

April 14, 2020 Monumental Muse 2Comment

Are you overwhelmed with a sense of loss?  We can help!  We are delighted that Geraldine Mace – a leading Grief and Relationship Coach based in York – has kindly agreed to guest write for us.  Here is a little introduction to Geraldine and what she does. Please share with our readers a little about yourself and your business. When I left school at 18, my first job was working at a GP surgery where I regularly encountered grieving people.  Those who had lost a loved one and were trying to make sense out of life and those who had…

April 9, 2020 Monumental Muse

“The hardest thing for anyone to do is open that door and walk through it.  I see people walk past the window time and time again, but they don’t want to come through the door.  Sometimes they walk past 4 or 5 times before they enter.”  It’s an incredibly perceptive observation and unsurprisingly it comes from Paul Kelwick.  Paul is the Manager of G R Pinder Memorials in Scarborough. It’s more than a job to Paul – it’s a way of life and he uses his knowledge and years of experience to bring an especially personal touch to his clientele….

April 8, 2020 Monumental Muse 3Comment

A Tip-tapping Heard in the Cemetery! On a bright and sunny Spring morning amidst the daffodils, sweet-scented hyacinths and ancient gravestones in York Cemetery there sits a solitary figure, patiently tip-tapping at the delicate stone in front of him.  We hear him before we see him, his hammer and chisel strangely in tune with the birds singing all around him.   He blends in beautifully to his surroundings, as if he belongs in the wooded glade which is his workplace today.  He appears to be oblivious to the little Robin who carefully supervises his every move. It turns out later the…

April 7, 2020 Monumental Muse

Growing Up “On The Farm” If, with retrospect, I could choose a childhood for myself I would choose exactly the childhood I was privileged to enjoy: that of growing up on our family farm in Tholthorpe.  It was amazing.  Not only did it shape my whole life in a way that I’ve been drawn to the village ever since, long into adulthood, but I wanted my own children and now their children to spend as much time as possible in the village “on the farm” enjoying the same thrills and experiences shared by generations before them. A Simple Life  Village…

April 6, 2020 Monumental Muse

Today we have a post from guest writer Judith Morris, Proprietor of York Tutors, as the name suggests based in York.  Prior to joining York Tutors Judith worked in the design industry before switching to accounting. She left work in 1978 to marry Malcolm and dedicate her time to raising their daughter Sheena who was swiftly joined by a younger sister Rebecca. Once the girls were in full-time education Judith chose to return to work by joining York Tutors.   On writing for “A Monumental Muse”, Judith tells us: “When Sharon asked me if I would like to contribute, I was…

April 4, 2020 Monumental Muse

I first read this book whilst holidaying in Mauritius.  Once I started it I couldn’t put it down and then when finished I read it again…and again.  Something totally unheard of for me.  Each time I re-read it I pick up something new. Author Simon Sinek discovered that well-known successful people such as Martin Luther King, Steve Jobs, The Wright Brothers, Barack Obama, Nelson Mandela all have one thing in common: they started with “Why?”  Those who start with why he discovered, never manipulate, they inspire.  People follow them not because they are told to but because they want to. …

April 3, 2020 Monumental Muse

Does suffering have an upside? In his book, ‘When you’re falling Dive’, Mark Matousek explores the effects that trauma can have on the progression of our lives. He argues that `post-catastrophe living’ can often be more intense, more vibrant and more joyous than the lives of those who haven’t experienced great suffering. In an interview with Dr Rachel Remen, she tells him “The process of wounding actually awakens us to our strength. It shuffles our values. And the top priority is never what you thought it would be. It’s never about perfection or power. It always turns out to be…